File this one under: Who doesn't need money? You may win.

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Hello Good People,

I hope you had an opportunity to enjoy good food, friends and family. If that isn't your thing, I hope you enjoyed the solitude that you were looking for. I've had a couple of Thanksgivings that I went to the movies and climbed into bed with a good book. I didn't feel like being bothered with people. This year, I am into the holiday season and all of the fesitvities that come with it.

I am grateful and thankful every day that I am blinking and breathing. In the Spirit of the holiday, here is a list.

Jesus Saves. I am glad that Jesus saves me from harm seen and unseen. He brings into my life what I need, at all the right times. I am under His umbrella of Grace and Mercy.

People that love me. My family and friends love me. They care about me as I am today. I am comfortable with them to show whatever side of myself decides to show up.

Laughter. I love to laugh. I make jokes about things that happened to me in the past that I am over. I make jokes to lighten the mood. Sometimes, I laugh just to make myself feel better.

Good conversation. I will talk to just about anyone. I like to learn about people and their personal journeys. I talk about movies, TV and pop culture issues.

The gift of music. I love music. I like to listen to it, move to it and sing along with it. Some songs take me back to a happier time, others lift my spirits; I like so many genres of music that I can radio surf when I take long drives.

For mental breaks in my day. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, or just want to be somewhere else, a song will come on the radio or someone will stop by my desk. Those few moments will pull me away from my current situation, by the time I get back to work, I am up for the challenge.

I can encourage other people. I like to be supportive. I try to be the listener that I want. I think of things that I would want someone to say to me if I were feeling down or looking for assistance; a kind word goes further than people think.

Hope you didn't eat too much turkey, Thanksgiving dinner is always better the day after.

Have a good one,
Kenya Abney

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Hello Good People,

I am not a Halloween person. I had to post this video. It isn't halloween if I don't hear it. Do you remember Dana Dane? He was the man. My favorite part of this song was when the receptionist gets excited when she hears his name. LOL



Love life and it will love you back,
Kenya Abney

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Hi Good People,

Back in the day, I used to love Michel’le. I liked that she had a squeaky speaking voice and a larger than life singing voice. When her songs came on the radio, I would think about all the great things that people have inside themselves. Many people have great things that would surprise others. I hope that she is on a come up. I liked her voice than and she sounds pretty good now. I never saw this video before. I think it might be a new song for her.



Have a good evening,
Kenya

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Hi Good People,

Two posts in one day, I know that you can't believe it. I'm working on doing better.

Item #1
I am a Glamour magazine reader. I am happy to report that Michelle Obama is going to be on the cover of the December issue. The profile is the debut of award-winning journalist Katie Couric. In her sit-down with Couric, Mrs. Obama answers questions from Glamour readers and shares her advice for women on everything from the importance of finding mentors in their own lives to dating. Here are some highlights that peaked my interest:

On finding career mentors: "I was blessed throughout my entire career. I had people rooting for me. It started with my parents, but it extended to almost every teacher that I had. When I was a young lawyer, there were other women and men in the firm who took me under their wing. Look for those mentors, because sometimes mentors don't find you -- sometimes you seek them out. Oftentimes, they're flattered and glad to lend a hand."

On how she keeps her sanity: "I have always tried to put my kids first, and then...put myself a really close second, as opposed to fifth or seventh. One thing that I've learned from male role models is that they don't hesitate to invest in themselves."

On her dating advice for women: "Cute's good. But cute only lasts for so long, and then it's, Who are you as a person? Don't look at the bankbook or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul.. When you're dating a man, you should always feel good... You shouldn't be in a relationship with somebody who doesn't make you completely happy and make you feel whole."

Item #2
I've been a fan of Robert Townsend since Hollywood Shuffle. He sealed the deal with me with the Five Heartbeats. I don't know if I ever mentioned that I'm interested in television and film. Film Life, Inc. is sponsoring Robert Townsend's "The Ultimate Pitch Master Class" lecture series. The first installment of the master class will be held at TheTimesCenter stage located at 232 West 41 Street in New York City on Saturday, November 21, 2009 from 10:00 am - 1:00 pm. Additional cities to be announced in January 2010. Tickets are available at www.ticketweb.com - prices are $75 (if purchased before November 7) and $125 (starting November 8th). For additional information e-mail info@thefilmlife.com or call 646-375-2144 ext. 1.

You know that I have to post at least one video. These two songs helped me get through a rough period in my life. I was in a relationship that wasn't working out. I needed to get out of my own way and move forward. I would listen to these songs every day until I stopped complaining and started planning.





Making the most of my days,
Kenya Abney

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Hi Good People,

I am former t tv-holic. Dancing with the Stars is sending me back to rehab. Four hours a week is too much. I'm only watching because I'm a Mya fan. I'm not excited about tv until Wednesday night. I looked forward to Modern Family. That show is so funny. The only issue I have with it is it makes me miss the first half hour of Glee. Here is one of my favorite clips from the show.

Enjoy

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Good People,

Today was long, for a variety of reasons. It left me longing for the weekend. Yesterday evening was such a good time. The Word that I received was powerful and inspiring. I now know that I received it on Sunday evening for a reason. I needed the encouragement to get me through the day.

I am feeling these three songs this evening. You may not remember them. Get ready to be transported to the late 90's and early 2000. That was not that long ago.

I still get up and dance to this one. This used to be the jam for real.





Did he have to take the dog, too? LOL Did you notice the next chick at the end holding the dog? LOL All jokes aside, when feelings are raw this is a good song to listen to get unto the next phase of a break up.

Have a good evening good people,
Kenya Abney

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Hello Good People,

I can’t speak on the workweek, but the weekend has been fabulous. On Friday, I went to the Maxwell concert. Chrisette Michelle and Common were the opening acts. Everyone knows that Chrisette is a songbird, she did her thing. Common is a sexy dude that could do no wrong as far as I’m concerned. The highlights of his performance were: Tribute to hip hop, brought out Bilal and he had a DJ tear down the house on the turntable. Let me not forget to mention that he brought all the sexiness that you see on TV and hear in the records.

I was really glad to see Bilal. I understand that he has a new album coming out. I still listen to the album he released a couple of years ago. If you don’t know whom I’m talking about, here are two of his videos:


Here are my three favorite Common Videos. Yes, I have favorite Common videos.



I LOVE Maxwell. He doesn’t have LL Cool J status. He is getting close, though. If you get a chance to see Maxwell in concert, please go. He has a phenomenal band behind him. The horn section will blow you away. He sang a lot of songs from his new album; be prepared to be acquainted with Maxwell in a way that you haven’t been before. Check out his latest and one of his greatest videos:



Saturday was raining, so I didn’t have my golf lesson. I went to the mall. I bought Faith Evans book, Keep the Faith and a pretty box that I’m using as my hope chest. I haven’t started it yet because I’m reading, Wake Up, I’m Fat by Camryn Manheim. There is a book exchange at the train station I go to every morning. This is my first time picking up a book. So far, it is a pretty good read. I don’t know why I picked it up. It is a good lesson in self-acceptance. I went to a 40th birthday party that was 70’s themed. It was a blast. The birthday girl entered the room to Disco Lady. She made a grand entrance, she had a dance routine down and everything. Some people went all out on their costumes also. It was a real fun evening. This afternoon, I am going to support my friend by going to her Usher Anniversary program at her church.

I feel Blessed, Highly favored, and wealthy with an abundance of riches. I am truly grateful for the experiences I had this weekend.

Loving Life because it loves Me,
Kenya Abney

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Hey Good People,

It has been a minute since I posted. I was so busy living that I didn't get to write. Highlights:

- Saw Ricky Smiley and George Wilborn. Thought George was really funny. Ricky was ok. It was a fun night. I went for free.
- Started golf lessons. I do many things easily, connecting with my inner Tiger Woods is not one. I need a lot more practice. I can hit the ball off the tee. The ball just doesn't go far. I am at the very basic stage, still learning those fundamentals. Check out this picture of me. That is the day thought I purchased my golf clubs. I was so excited.
- Got a great new "main" boss. I support 3 Executives and 2 of their Teams in my work life. Some days I want to holler and throw up my hands. She is very supportive. I am going to be sad when one of us gets another job.
- I have a crush on a guy. He is handsome. For a crush, that's all I need to know. Hopefully, I will get to know him and it'll be more. If not, I can always catch glimpses of him throughout the day.
-I don't know if I mentioned my Sister's wedding. We had a blast. Her wedding day was actually a three day event. We had her rehearsal dinner on Wednesday night, bachelorette party on Thursday and the wedding on Friday. Everything turned out as it should. Everyone had a fantastic time.
- Went to my Friend's 40th birthday party. It was a great celebration of life. I was so glad that I went. It was great to see Nadine. She has a warm and welcoming family. I also hung out with my girl, Charisse.
- LL Cool J aka Todd Smith is on NCIS: Los Angeles and I haven't missed an episode.
- My daughter started her first year of high school. I have mixed feelings about that. She is no longer a baby. Her childhood is practically over. The time flew by.
- Lastly, I am praying, resting and writing more. Revising old short stories. Assembling a collection. This time next year, I plan on being published.

Staying open to Blessings and Great Opportunities,
Kenya Abney

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Mrs. Fields(R) Celebrates National Cookie Month With First Annual Free Cookie Day On October 1, 2009

Click on the link to get the how, when and where about National Cookie Month.

Have a great day,
Kenya Abney

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U.S. Census Bureau Daily Feature for Sept. 20

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On this day eight years ago, America experienced one of its darkest days -- the coordinated attacks on the World Trade Center towers and the Pentagon -- by terrorists flying hijacked airliners. A fourth aircraft crashed in rural Pennsylvania, as passengers fought with the hijackers. At the Pentagon, the attack killed 189 civilian and military personnel. In New York, nearly 3,000 people died. By comparison, the Japanese raid on Pearl Harbor in 1941 killed some 2,400. Both events changed the course of the nation's history. The 911 attacks highlighted the vital role of firefighters. Across the nation, 463,000 firefighters stand ready to protect us. The men and women of the U.S. Census Bureau -- who lost two colleagues in the attacks -- join in remembering those killed and injured.

Be blessed,
Kenya Abney

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Hi Good People,

I decided to post this speech because I think it is a good message for kids. I always say, "The same kid that you don't educate today is going to be the same adult that knocks you over the head tomorrow." I don't understand what all the protest was about. What did people think that he was going to say? You can watch it or listen for yourself.



My daughter didn't see it because she claims that she was at lunch. Did you use to watch "The Wonder Years"? I did. My daughter reminds me of the episode when the firs man walked on the moon. Kevin was so preoccupied with what was going on in his life that he missed the historic event. She reminds me of that episode. She'll watch it before the week is out. It's only 16 or 17 minutes. He reinforced what I tell her all the time. Maybe she'll listen if it comes from the President.

Making the Most of My Life,
Kenya Abney

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Big Rewards

Peppermint Patties are my favorite candy. One year at Christmas, I bought a peppermint patty cake before. In the winter, I like to eat peppermint patties with cookies. All year around, I like to eat peppermint patties with popcorn. It is one of those candies that you can eat alone or mix with other foods and it enhances the flavor. You should try it. Also, it is low in fat. I guess that doesn't matter since I mix it with all kinds of food. LOL

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Hello Good People,

I love Debbie Allen and Phylicia Rashad. They have so much spirit. They remind me of my Sisters. Enjoy the interview.

Sisters Phylicia Rashad, Debbie Allen Lose Weight Together - ABC News

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Hair trumps health:How African American women can stop “sweating out” their relaxed hair at the gym

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Hello Good People,

This truth is stranger than any fiction, I've read. Not only did a grown man steal and impregnate a minor, he involved his children in the theft. I don't know what is going on with people these days.

Kenya


Neb. man stole Virgin Mary painting for abortion
By TIMBERLY ROSS (AP) – 1 day ago

OMAHA, Neb. — A Nebraska man who stole a painting of the Virgin Mary to finance an abortion for a teen he raped has been convicted of first-degree sexual assault and felony theft.

Aurelio Vallerillo-Sanchez, 39, of Omaha pleaded no contest to the charges Friday and faces up to 70 years in prison when sentenced in October, Douglas County prosecutor Brenda Beadle said Saturday.

A call to the county public defender representing Vallerillo-Sanchez wasn't answered Saturday.

Beadle said Vallerillo-Sanchez fled to Mexico with the 300-year-old painting worth $100,000 and the pregnant teen in March 2007.

"The plan was that when they got to Mexico, she was to undergo an abortion," she said.

When an abortion wasn't possible, Vallerillo-Sanchez pushed to have the baby given up for adoption, Beadle said: "He wanted to do everything he could to get rid of this baby 'cause it was evidence against him."

The teen returned to Nebraska after giving birth, the prosecutor said.

Vallerillo-Sanchez was arrested in February after DNA linked him to the September 2006 assault of the then-14-year-old girl.

His children gave police information about the theft during the investigation into the sexual assault. His son told police he served as a lookout as his father stole the painting from St. Cecilia Cathedral in Omaha. Vallerillo-Sanchez sold the painting for $3,000 in Mexico, his daughter told police.

Vallerillo-Sanchez has been linked to at least four other thefts in the Omaha area, but charges were not filed as part of a plea deal, Beadle said.

(This version CORRECTS that the teen gave birth before returning to Nebraska, not after.)
Copyright © 2009 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.

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Father Involvement Cheerleader
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Hi Good People,

I like Lady GaGa's unique style. I was talking to my daughter in the car yesterday, she said that she wanted her album. Did I just date myself? I forget that we call them CD's these days. Any who, I thought about it. So far, I've liked all her songs that they play on the radio. My favorite is still "Jut Dance".

A couple of weekends after my Sister visited me, we were talking on the phone about a song with a slowed down version of the Poker Face chorus. She didn't know who it was by but she really liked it. She thought that I would like it too. She told me to listen out for it. Guess what? Two weeks later I heard Kid Cudi's song on the radio. She was right, I did like it. I posted these two together because music is universal and I like them both. Enjoy.

Kid Cudi - Make Her Say Feat. Kanye West & Common (HD) from DP on Vimeo.

Loving life cause it loves me back,
Kenya

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Hello,

A lot has happened since the last time I posted. My baby sister got married. The wedding was beautiful. I will post pictures, as soon as I can. She has a 3 day celebration. I came early to help and I was one of the last leave to make sure that everything was in order. I read the following quote today. I thought that it was worth sharing. I plan on mediating on it for the remainder of the week.

Have a good one,
Kenya

"You can have anything you want - if you want it badly enough. You can be anything you want to be, have anything you desire, accomplish anything you set out to accomplish - if you will hold to that desire with singleness of purpose."

Robert Collier

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Hello,

I have my Bridesmaid dress. Yeah!!! There was a lot of drama behind this dress. I ordered and paid for it in April. It arrived last week. Honestly, it arrived last week at 1:00 in the afternoon. I had been calling for weeks about this dress. I had a fitting on the same day that it arrived. My Sister came into town on Friday to make sure that it is the length and pined up the way she wants it. I am glad to have the dress. I'll be so happy when I'm at the reception dancing and having a good time.

Yesterday, I watched shows about George Michael and Boy George. Below I posted some of my favorite songs. I really wanted to post "Do You Really Want to Hurt Me?" If you can picture the video, the jury was in black face. I can't bring myself to post anything that has people in black face. That was one of my favorite Culture Club songs. It still is. I just won't post the video. Hope you enjoy.

Make the most of your day,
Kenya Abney

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File this under: You never know. At the least, you get e-mails from Comfort Inn. At the most, you get a free vacation. Go for it.

Comfort Inn(R) Hotels & The Steve Harvey Morning Show Give Travelers the Chance to Win Three Ultimate College Football Trips

Good Luck,
Kenya Abney

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Hi Good People,

Mark your calendars on Monday, September 9 at 9:00 PM for Your Life, Your Money. This is family program that everyone can get into...money management. When I entered young adulthood, I knew nothing about money management. Next thing I knew, I was a mother, with no money management skills. I'll watch this with my daughter. I'm sure we'll both learn something.

Young Adults Get the 411 on Personal Finance in Money Management Special Hosted by Donald Faison and Featuring Hip-Hop Entrepreneur Russell Simmons

Kenya Abney

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This Fall, GRAMMY(R) Award-Winning Artist Monica Makes Her Reality Debut With New Series 'MONICA' on Tuesday, October 27, at 10:00 p.m.*

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Award-Winning Comedienne and Actress Mo'Nique Makes a Highly Anticipated Return to BET for New Late Night Show Debut, 'THE MO'NIQUE SHOW,' Premiering this Fall

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Hello Good People,

Last weekend, I went to see Chico Debarge and Joe. The opening act was Bella Donna. They are a local band. I wanted to link to their song but I couldn't find them on Myspace. I think that I found them on Facebook. I sent a friend request. If it is them, I will post the link for you to check them out. They were really good. Chico is so handsome in person. He didn't perform my favorite Chico Debarge song. Yes, I have one. It is Listen To Your Man. He did all his other songs. Joe is a master on the stage. His confidence upped his appeal factor. There is something about him on stage that doesn't come across on tv or in videos. If you have an opportunity, see him you won't be sorry. I went to Target the next day to buy his new CD. Not one in the house. Here are a couple of my favorite Joe songs. Enjoy!

Making the Most of My Life,
Kenya Abney

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Laugh
I love to laugh. I strive to be happy and think positive thoughts every day. I laugh all the time. I love to make jokes to break the tension. I love to laugh when I'm not too happy to keep things in perspective. I love to laugh when things are going right. Whenever I get together with a friend, we always manage to get a couple of laughs in. Life is full of opportunities to find a laugh. There are a lot of things that seem tragic when you are going through it. After you get some distant from the moments you can find great humor. It's ok to laugh at other people. Don't be mean with it. I have plenty of funny stories in my mental rolodex about friends, family and former co-workers. When I need it, I always think of something that will give me a chuckle. I never go a day without laughing at something. The minimum requirement is a chuckle. On the average, I get 3 hardy laughs a day. Tears are shed twice a week. I love to laugh. If you don't than you should try it.

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See this movie if you want the BeJesus scared out of you.

I saw this movie when I was a child. I want to say around 9 or 10. I mentally blocked out most of it. I do remember sleeping with the lights on for at least a week. I am pretty sure there was a lot of Bible clutching as well. Beside Carrie, I was never a horror fan to begin with. The Omen sealed the deal for me. Horror flicks never get my money. Although, The Orphan looks good. It might get my matinee money.

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I don't want anyone to apologize. I am not upset or mad with anyone. I just really like this song. There is always a point of no return, some people take you there without trying or being conscious of it. No one likes to be taken for granted.



The most interesting thing that happened today:
There is a homeless guy that used to amaze me with the places that he would pop up. I've been working down town for the last 4 - 5 years, I've seen him down town, in Pikesville, Owings Mills and Security Boulevard. That dude gets around. In New York people ask for money on the subway all the time. Not in Baltimore. I've never seen anyone asking for money on the train until today. A few minutes before I get to my stop, I heard a familiar voice from behind me say, "I'm a homeless man. Does anyone have a quarter?" No one moved. He began guilt tripping the people. "If it were not for the grace of God this could be you? You never know when you are entertaining angels? When you are a blessing to others than God will bless you?" Next thing I know, he is thinking people for the money that folds and doesn't jingle. Now I know why he has been homeless for at least 4 - 5 years. He is probably making good money being homeless.

I am tired. Today was a long day. It seems like a wake up rip and roaring to go. I mentally think of all the things that I'm going to do when I get home. I go to work. When I get home, I don't do anything except check e-mail, watch tv and shower. Sometimes I do other things. Mostly I don't. I am getting out of a rut. I've been having really good weekends lately. I'm still up because my sister told me that she is going to call me back. I'm sure that she is in her house knocked out now. I'm about to be knocked out in a couple of minutes myself.

Loving Life cause it loves me back,
Kenya Abney

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My daughter missed out on this. She turned 15 in June. She would not have been so excited about Pee Wee performing at her party. She would have sucked it up to get a free party. Pass it on to someone who is interested.

One Lucky Teen to Win a $45,000 Quinceanera Party From Verizon Wireless: "My Fabulous 15 contest Grand Prize includes a live performance by singing sensation Pee Wee at teen's party for 200 friends and family"

Loving Life cause it loves me back,
Kenya Abney

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Look Like A Star Without Spending Like One

MMI offers simple beauty tips that don't break the bank:

Make an appointment at a barber/beauty college. Visit your local beauty college and get your hair done for a low cost or, in some cases, for free! It may sound scary to have an inexperienced aspiring stylist "practice" on you, but a licensed professional is also onsite supervising.
Find great skin/hair products in your home. Olive oil has many nutritional values in many areas besides cooking. It is good for your hair and skin. Pour a little olive oil in your bath for a great skin softener or try using it as a conditioner for your hair. It's also a great cleansing cream. One tube of Vaseline can be used 50 different beauty ways including: lip gloss, cuticle cream, lotion, healing cream for dry skin on elbows and feet, and a quick faux eyelash extender.
Give yourself a mani/pedicure. You don't have to spend salon prices for a good manicure and pedicure. You can pamper yourself at home by buying a home-spa kit. Call up five of your closest friends and make it a girl's night!
Get your hair done on a Monday or Wednesday. These are the days with the least amount of traffic for most salons, so the best deals are offered on these days to help drive business. Plus, you'll get lots of attention from the stylist when business is slow.
Research coupons and specials. A little research goes a long way. Look up coupons online or sign up for promotional events through email. Many of the leading cosmetic companies offer great summer deals as do many salons. Visit http://printable-coupons.blogspot.com/2005/10/beauty-coupons.html for amazing beauty coupons.

Moving in the best direction,
Kenya Abney

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This contest may be your lucky break. You never know who will see your video, or what it will lead too. At the very least, it may be the first step in making your dreams come true. Nine West will introduce the Vintage America Voices Contest this month, in conjunction with the launch of Nine West Vintage America Collection. This campaign will celebrate the new collection, as well as allow brand ambassador and singer/songwriter Miranda Lee Richards to spearhead a talent search to help someone else find their voice, with the opportunity to record and release a single through Sony/ATV Music Publishing's in house label, Hickory Records.



Loving life cause it loves me back,
Kenya Abney

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It is the love/desire for money that is the root for all evil. If we lived in a world where people could trade chocolate for services/goods, than people would do crazy and strange things for chocolate. Would that make chocolate evil?

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Hello,

Recently, I had a death of a friendship. It was really bothering me. Reading this put things into perspective for me. My feelings are still hurt about it but I understand the lose.

Kenya Abney



RSL?
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Are you a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?

Pay attention to what you read. After you read this, you will
know the reason it was sent to you!

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a
lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know
what to do for each person.

REASON:

When someone is in your life for a REASON. . .
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come
to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance
and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for
the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring
the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire
fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered.

And now it is time to move on.

SEASON:

When people come into your life for a SEASON it is because your
turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an
experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you
something you have never done. They usually give you an
unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real!

But, only for a season.


LIFETIME:

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you
must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what
you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of
your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life.

~©Brian A. "Drew" Chalker~

Stop here and just SMILE.

Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
And dance like no one is watching.

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I found it. This used to be my joint!!!!!

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I loved Whodini. If I can find, One Love it is a wrap.

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This takes me back to Junior High School.

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My birthday is in August. I usually put together my resolutions on my birthday because that is my own personal New Year. Here are the items that have been on my mind and in my heart lately.

Improve my outlook on life
I am a very encouraging person. I'm the one you want in your corner when you feel down. Unfortunately, I have problems motivating myself. I'm making progress. So far, I can tell that my point of view is shifting.

Cultivate my creative side
I like to write. I dabble, very little, in drawing. Usually, in the evening, I'll come home and vegetate in front of the tv. Now, I think about different projects that I can work on.

Develop a business plan
I began to submit the paperwork to start a publishing company. I have a couple of books of poetry and short stories that need to be edited. I want to catalog what I have. Get with an editor. Develop a plan and share my words with the world,

Develop e-interviews for my blog
I love people. I love to ask and learn about people. I want to develop a "8 questions for ..." feature for my blog. I am going to start with the people that send me e-mails and follow me on twitter. I have an Openzine account. If I have a lot of material, I may start a quarterly e-zine.

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It is official. I am jealous. Maxwell is performing for free somewhere in the world and I won't be there. If you are in New York on July 8 at 12, please make your way to CBS Early Show Studio Plaza (Corner of 59th Street and 5th Avenue). It's an outdoor concert, so even if you aren't close to the stage, you'll still be able to hear him. I'll be watching this video at that time, I'm sure I'll need a little something to get me through.



I'm Loving Life. It's Loving Me Back.
Kenya Abney

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Since I was sitting here thinking about yesterday, I had to dig up these 2 videos. They were my favorites when I was developing into a young woman. You could not tell me that I wasn't going to grow up to be Mrs. Christopher Williams. He was fine! Back in those days, I didn't know that you should pick a husband based on the content of his character. I thought, He looks good. I'm attracted to him. I can make it work. Sometimes I wish life was really that cut and dry. That 's a post for another day. Also, I was into that "pretty boy" "light skin" thing like most girls at that time. I'm not as color struck as I used to be. I have a great appreciation for all hues. I think that skin is so pretty, I don't like when people cover it up with tattoos. (Another post for another day.)

Hope you enjoy the video.


I wasn't going to be Mrs. B. Sure. I did love to look at his picture and listen to his music. Whatever happened to Kyle West? The guy he asked to break it down.


Loving Life. Life is Loving Me Back,
Kenya Abney

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Hello Good People,

I wasn't able to get the clips from YouTube, now they are "private" or "infringement on Viacom's rights". It's OK. If you really want to see the show than you'll watch it one of the many times that BET will rerun it.

I know that I'm late about this but I have been working on getting myself together in my own way. I couldn't begin to pinpoint a favorite song. I'm a fan of his beginning days with his brother all the way to Butterflies. I still wish that he had made a video for it. He will live on forever through his music and our memories. I remember the trading cards and posters. I remember gathering around the TV to watch the debut of his videos. I remember standing at the bus stop the next morning talking about it. Everyone loved Michael Jackson. The bully, the nerd, the cool kid, everyone would huddle together and talk about the magic of Michael Jackson. He has had too many songs, and provided the background music for too many precious moments in my life for me to pinpoint a favorite song. I can name a favorite video, though. Here it is:




You can watch the video if you want, I got up and danced.


Make the most of your day,
Kenya Abney

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This is one of my favorite O'Jay songs. I like the standards like, Backstabbers, Love Train, Stairway to Heaven, etc. This song is the truth. Cause there are some people that your heart makes you stay when your head says run. They just got their hooks in you. They don't make relationship songs like this anymore.

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Hello Good People,

Last week, I really enjoyed my life. I hung out with a great friend. Shout out to Charisse. Here are some highlights:

Went to DC
I used to work in DC. Baltimore is nowhere from DC but I never go anymore. The vibe is very different from Baltimore. I drove past my old work location. I wonder if Sammie, the guy that owns the hot dog stand, is still there. When I stopped working in DC, the building across the street was under construction. I finally saw the final product: people were sitting out front waiting for a bus. People looked happy and dressed great. The city was live and kicking at 11:00 on a Wednesday night. You would have thought that it was a Friday or Saturday night the way everything was jumping.

Saw Beyonce in concert
I wasn’t friends with Beyonce before Wednesday. I went to her movies. If her song came on the radio, I would listen. Occasionally, sing along, at least the chorus part. But, she has converted me. I am now a fan. I’ve told everyone that would listen that they should buy a ticket. She really is talented. She worked hard on that stage. I can’t believe she has enough energy to do that every night.

Spent quality time with great folks
Mentioned before that I hung out w/Charisse. We met a fun guy on the streets of DC. I think his name is Don. He had great conversation and made us laugh. Went to a cook out and connected with old friends and made some new

Renewed Appreciation for my life
With all the death that came about this week, I had a good time reminiscing with the Michael Jackson songs. Most of the songs took me back to simpler times. It also took me back to a time when I believed in myself more and dreamed. It has brought a lot into perspective for me. It brought me back to what is important to me.

Went to Church and talked to God more
I got a good message from the TV this morning. Got an even better message in the house of the Lord. Learned a lesson. I was having a bad moment. I wanted someone to talk to. I wanted someone to tell me to be still and let God. Let me be real, I wanted someone to say something that would make me feel better. First, I couldn’t get anyone on the phone. Than when I did, they said things that took me further into my bad moment. When I got off the phone, God put the words that I needed to hear in a complete strangers mouth. Lesson learned: Lean on God and His understanding. God knows what you need and when you need it. He will provide, you need to be open for your blessings to come from places that you wouldn’t ordinarily look.

Make the most of your day,
Kenya Abney

PS
Watched the BET Awards, Highlights were: any time Neyo or Jaime Foxx hit the stage, New Jack Swing and O'Jay's tributes and Maxwell Performance. Thinking about posting clips tomorrow after they hit Youtube. You can read my twitter comments in the column.

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It is a great story. It proves that truth is stranger than fiction. Before I read the book, I thought that Dorothy Dandridge was beautiful. I thought that she had talent. I knew nothing about her personal life. She had many struggles since childhood. At some parts of the book, it felt like the pages were turning themselves. I have a beat up copy that I pull off of the shelf every now and than. It is a long book but it is so interesting that most of the time, it doesn't feel like it.

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I loved that Teresa stood up for herself. People always underestimate you when you are nice.

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This is one of my Motown favs. I enjoy watching this performance.

Kenya Abney

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File this one under, you never know. You may be the winner of a much needed vacation. Where In The World Are The Cook Islands

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That would be great because my daughter is going to be 16 this time next year. I'm starting to plan her Sweet 16. And, I was thinking about other pop up expenses. Right about now, I would be over joyed with a stack of extra cash. To be honest, who wouldn't be. Than you can buy yourself all the other things on the list.

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Hello Good People,

This has been some kind of month. First, I stretched myself some. My sister and I shared driving to Alabama from Maryland. To most that is not such a big deal. It is for me. Cars and I have always had a strange relationship. I don’t like to drive. If I were an old white lady, my name would be Daisy. I do like to ride in cars. I like the flexibility of coming and going at my on pace. I am the master at riding shotgun. I am good at providing snacks, talking to the driver to keep them awake, reading stop signs, etc. So this was a big stretch for me to do my share of driving. I was very proud of myself when the trip was over. The weather was nice. It was nice to see the cows in the fields. Horses roaming. Beautiful colors that I couldn’t imagine, I’d ever see. It was a nice trip. My daughter slept, read and listened to her ipod most of the trip. My sister and I talked when we weren’t taking turns napping. I also learned that Trina, my sister, have pretty good communication skills. We didn’t argue once about anything. We all had a great time. My cousin’s wedding was beautiful. The reception was great. I had quality time with my aunt and cousin. We confirmed a signature drink for Trina’s bachelorette party.

Today was a very relaxed day. As you can see from the videos that I chose, today was a Maxwell day. I had a nice chilled out vibe. I watched tv, slept, looked online for venues for Destiny’s Sweet 16 and Trina’s bachelorette party. It’s funny how the work day goes by so slow but the weekend goes by so fast. I had a turkey burger and vegetable for lunch, a bagel and peach for breakfast, I haven’t decided on dinner yet.

Make the most of your weekend,
Kenya Abney

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I absolutely love this song. I heard that R. Kelly wrote it. Don't know if it is true or not. I do know that I am glad that Maxwell recorded it. I can feel the emotions in his voice. I listen to this song at least once a month. Secretly, I would like for someone to feel that way about me one day. It keeps me holding on to hope.

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I never liked this video. It doesn't go with the song. Or, make you like the song more. This is an awesome song and it would be a hit without the video. Besides Maxwell's vocals are on point.

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This is one of my favorite Maxwell song's. I'm still trying to get into Pretty Wings.

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You know that I love Marvin Gaye. This is a classic song. The words are still appropriate for the times we live in. I hope you enjoy.

Kenya Abney

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I went there on a business trip. The mountains were beautiful. I had never been to a place like it before. The people were nice. It was the first place that I was ever asked to watch a movie trailer and give my opinion. Took a tour of the Temple Square. From watching tv, I thought that the Mormon's would be weird. Or, at least different from me. From taking the tour and interacting with the people, I changed my opinion. I haven't been back since the business. I truly believe in my heart that it won't be the last time my feet touches that ground or my eyes see those mountains.

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I absolutely love this song. I never get tired of listening to it. The Go West cover was pretty good. There is nothing like the original.

Kenya Abney

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This is how I'm feeling this morning. Have a blessed and highly favored day.

Kenya Abney

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My vice is a specific flavor of potato chip. It is salt and vinegar. It started during my teen years. I saw a small bag on the shelf. I thought to myself, That is an interesting combination. I purchased it. After the first taste, I was hooked. You have to understand, I am not a salt girl. I don't like salt. I don't add it to my food. I don't look for it on the table at restaurants. I am fine with a world where salt doesn't exist...unless it is combined with vinegar and put on a potato chip. The salt and vinegar chips break my skin out and make me bloated but if they are around, I can't resist. I know that they are not good for me, so I avoid them at all costs. I hadn't had any in years. A couple of weekends ago, my friend and I were in the grocery store picking up snacks. She picked up a bag of bbq potato chips. Front and center, calling my name was a large bag of salt and vinegar potato chips. I ate half the bag that evening. I didn't share one chip with anyone else. I know I'm wrong. I can't help it. Salt and vinegar potato chips are the devil.

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I am going to post one more video and that is it. This is such a nice song.

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They are dancing their butts off in this video.

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I like this song. My sister and I were dancing to it. Get up off of that thing. Movement makes you feel good.

Kenya Abney

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motivation

I am a closet motivational speaker, and encourager of all. As a worker bee, I'm pretty good at doing research and passing along helpful information. I wanted to be a guidance counselor at one time. I'm an unofficial therapist to many.

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Another great weekend bites the dust. The weather was perfect. I got to catch up with a great friend. I had great food. Went to great events. Life is truly wonderful and fantastic.

I heard this in somebody's back yard. This used to be the jam. I wonder what Trina and Tamar are doing now? There brother is Jesse Powell. He sang "You". That's a song that I still listen to every now and than. Hope you enjoy this video.


I heard this one riding in the car. Hi-Five used to be my group. All of their songs take me back to a much simpler time in my life. I hope you like it.


This is the jam of the spring/summer. At first, I didn't like it. Now, I turn it up every time I hear it on the radio. Besides my daughter is a huge fan.


I love India.Arie. I like anything that she records.


Make the most of your day,
Kenya Abney

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I grew up on Breyers ice cream. The old fashion type is still my Dad's favorite. I think that Jane Krakowski is a good actress. If I could post a link for you to watch the webisodes directly, I would. Unfortunately, you have to click on the link. It is fun to watch. New Breyers Webisodes - With Video Enjoy

Kenya Abney

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It is funny. It has great music. Although the movie takes place in 1958 Harlem, you get caught up in the universal themes about stardom, drug use and relationships between family members. I was a kid the first time that I watched it. I still pull out the DVD every now and than to watch it.

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I think that she has merit to what she says. I was raised in a household where my Dad was the head. He had the final say. Sometimes he entertained comments, most of the time he didn't. His word was law. My Mom worked outside of the home. Her family was her top priority. She was nurturing, encouraging and about her family. I know that neither role was always easy to be in. As a child, it was good to know that I had a protecter and provider in the house.


Make the most of your day,
Kenya Abney

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I like transitioning from one thing to another. When I get home, on a good day, I put on exercise clothes and bust a sweat while following a tape/cd. Than I take a shower to wash off the day. Here is the best part, I put on my lounge wear. Lounge wear is anything that makes you feel comfy cozy. On a hard day, I will put on pajamas. On a good day, I'll put on fuzy slippers, leggings/sweat pants and a t-shirt. In the summer, a nice pair of shorts and a tank top. In the winter, I have a warm hoody. It is ratty and old, I should get rid of it. That is not going to happen. Sometimes on a Saturday, when I know that I'm not going any where, I'll put on some lounge wear and enjoy the day. I recommend it to everyone.

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Lifetime Television Picks Up Sherri Shepherd Comedy

I'm a fan of Sherry Shepherd. I definitely plan on watching the show when it airs. I hope it is a great success.

Make the most of your day,
Kenya Abney

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I was going through my e-mails yesterday. A friend sent this to me a couple of days before shw became a bride. I thought it would be a good post. So, here it is:

FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
Golden rules for finding your life partner by Doc. Heller, M.A.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake.

Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%,it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date.

Choosing a life partner should never be based on love.

Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married.

Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; you need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together?

You need to share something deeper and more meaningful.

You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage:
(1) You can grow together, or (2) you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!

Bottom line; and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship.

Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - I.e. Trust that I won't get "punished"; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings.
Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves?

A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing"; so ask about your significant other what do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic?

Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following:
* How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.?
* How do they treat their parents and siblings?
* Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5:Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve"; them after they're married.

As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse" if you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them..

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective. ... There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.... (Some of y’all may need to read that again)

It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships.

Observe the relationships around you. (This statement feeds into my thoughts on "Do Not Make Someone a Priority In Your Life, When All You Are Is Just An Option For Them")

Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you ... the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye"; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, pity, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.

* Do you bring out the best in each other?
* Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
* What do you bring to the relationship?
* Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
* You can't take someone to the altar to alter them.
* You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
* If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life"; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG ARE:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes)
8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
10.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace it.

Happiness keeps You Sweet,
Trials keep You Strong,
Sorrows keep You Human,
Failures keep You Humble,
Success keeps You Glowing,
But ......... Only God keeps You Going!
"In search for me, I discovered truth.

In search for truth, I discovered love and in search for love, I discovered God.
In God, I have found everything."

"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals...."

Authors Unknown


Make the most of your day,
Kenya Abney

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